Online Russian girls dating can really be an amazing thing. It gives a man a key to meeting hundreds of girls from anywhere in the former USSR, it is convenient and fast. But just like regular offline relationships, it can present some challenges. One of them can be putting an end to a relationship with a girl, with whom you have communicated for some time, and who has developed an affection for you. Doing this is never pleasant, and we suggest just a few tips to making this process as simple and gentle as possible.
Do not avoid voicing your decision
Everyone has experienced situations, where expectation of a response is scarier than the reply itself. Knowing this, do not simply ignore the Russian girl you have decided to leave - it is one of the cruelest and hurtful things you can do. It can be a very easy option, given that the other party has no way to know when you are online, but it is not the right thing to do. Try putting yourself in that person's shoes in this situation - how would you feel and what would you think if someone you had been communicating with frequently has suddenly disappeared without an explanation? Instead of making a girl worry and be concerned (not to mention cherish hope of your return one day!), the best thing to do is to simply tell the truth.
Be honest, but tactful
For whatever reason you choose to break up is, it is important that you are honest with the girl. Of course, she might be upset or angry with you, but she will respect you for telling the truth. It is a daring step to take - telling someone that you do not wish to continue romantic communication - but it doesn't have to be a massacre, you can still find light, gentle ways to tell that person the truth. In being tactful, make sure you convey your message clearly. Do not hint or beat around the bush in the hope that the girl will read between the lines - say things the way they are. And whatever reasons you use, make sure they are valid. Leaving a Russian girl to wonder "why" will only lead to excessive analyzing of the situation over and over and will prevent her from healing faster.
Take responsibility for your decision
It might be tempting to blame the girl or something else for the choice you are making, but it will only aggravate the situation. If you partner believes you, she will try to fix the situation, be willing to wait, etc. Trying to create excuses will not only prolong the process of breaking up, but can also be more painful for the girl, once she understands the truth.
Focus on the good
It is important that when you have the breakup talk and give the Russian girl reasons as to why you are breaking up with her you also focus on their positive traits. For example, if you feel the girl you have been writing to is not your match, you can first comment on some great qualities that she has and share what positive has come of your communication, BUT also you must say that you two are not compatible. Balancing positives and negatives will soften the situation and will not leave the girl feeling completely humiliated.
Be determined
After initiating the breakup, many people can feel guilty and try to make up for it being extra nice to their ex. This is really not a good idea, as restarting communication can lead your former girlfriend to believe that you might change your mind, or are second guessing your decision. Anything indefinite for the sake of being nice will only create false hopes. Do not promise things you will not deliver: i.e. do not say you will call, if you do not plan to, etc. Also, be determined once you have decided to break up. Avoid getting back together, or keeping a relationship stuck in the air by using excuses "I need to think everything over," etc. If you know you do not want to be with that Russian girl, stick by it. Anything other than a clear statement that your relationship is really over will make the healing process for both parties long and painful.
Allow your Russian girl correspondent to vent
Remember that once you share your decision with the girl, she will most likely want to vent about what is happening. It is a normal part of a process, especially if you have established an emotional connection. It might be a difficult thing to do, but try to be open to your partner's questions about why things are the way they are and why you should put an end to the relationship. It can seem very simple to opt out of a relationship over the internet, but it is best to admit things openly and deal with the issue without making excuses. If nothing else, your former Russian girl partner will still be able to respect you even after your relationship will be over.
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