Have you though that by bringing your woman to your country and married her – that’s all you had to do and your work is done? Yeah, right…
Marriage counselors.
Some guys think that once you bring your woman to your country and married her, then your work is done and everything is completed now. That’s where you are terribly mistaken! By bringing a foreign woman to your country you have done a small portion of work, now that’s where the whole fun starts! With all the excitement of developing new relationships there many issues raise up that might take all your excitement and love to each other disappear instantly.
We tend to act nicely and be more considerate while we are talking to someone on the Internet, but when we actually start living together only that time we face the imperfections plus the cultural difference. On then you start seeing things you need to work on to make a union a strong core.
You see, when you bring a woman from overseas and start living together with her sharing your place, food, emotions, you are not just brining a new person into your life – that personal come with the baggage. The baggage of her rules, culture, addictions, things and way things she got used to be done. It usually never matches the exact way you do things, as you have your own baggage as well sitting in the closet. When you start living together she gets her rules “baggage” unpacked so get you to do the same. That’s where some misunderstanding might occur. Especially if your woman doesn’t speak fluent English, she might not always get what you want out of her. That’s where you need a marriage counselor help, and not just any marriage counselor but a by lingual councilor.
You need to be guided through the things your new wife expects out of you, so does your wife needs to understand what you want from her. You absolutely need someone who knows both cultures, someone who experiences both cultures and lives in both countries to explain her what she needs to adjust to and to explain you which part you have to be a little more considerate, so you can make some adjustments in your “view of things and expectations”.
In my 12 years of experience I had seen all couples going through the adjustment troubles and all of them needed my consulting of how to overcome some misunderstandings.
Some of them get by on their own, takes a lot longer time though when you do it yourself and lot more work, but there also couple who failed. I believe any marriage with any types of differences can be saved, you just need to get a proper assistance, desire to make few changes and then, you don’t even notice how strong your union becomes. Have our by lingual marriage counselor help you save your relationships!
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